This post, although very different from the rest, is one that I have been wanting to do for some time now. I get a lot of questions about so many different things and from these questions I determined my followers don’t get the chance to know me on a personal level. (I’m going to do a random facts/get to know me blog post soon) So starting now I’ll try to add a personal post in the mix every once in a while. Like the title suggests this post is about relationships.
On of my favorite questions to receive is, “Why aren’t you dating anyone?” This question also comes in other forms like “Do you have a boyfriend?” etc. I don't mind getting these questions but I wouldn’t say I have an actual answer. BUT based off my personal experiences and seeing my friends, acquaintances and strangers in the dating world I have come to a conclusion.
The one “real” relationship I had began in high school and ended after my first year away at college. I was 19; I’m now 23 and have yet to be in a serious relationship since. During those four years of me being single, my oldest sister got married and is now pregnant, my other sister recently got into a serious relationship and most of my friends from high school/college are in serious relationships, engaged, married and/or having children. Literally every time I go on Facebook my newsfeed consist of relationship milestones. I can’t help but feel a bit “behind.” I mean I have dated, (not a huge fan of dating but that’s an entirely separate post itself) but nothing too serious has evolved. I can’t help but think that it’s me, especially since the last guy I was seeing told me, “there isn’t a spark” …which was supposed to be my line! As cliché as it might be, right after him and I ended whatever it was that we were doing I came across the quote, “I was too much and not enough for a man who was everything and nothing at all.” I’ve read many quotes and this hit the nail right on the head. After all I wasn’t even sure if I actually liked him or just liked the idea of companionship. What I am sure of is the message he brought back to my attention;never settle.
So, to simply answer the question “Why aren’t you dating anyone?” I have come to the conclusion: I won’t allow myself to settle. I’m thankful my past “relationships” have failed because it has opened my eyes up to what a relationship should be. No, I don’t want to be with someone who treats me lesser than him. No, I don’t want to be with someone who is insecure with himself and/or our relationship. No, I don’t want to be treated as an object. And no, I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t aspire to be better every day. So instead of comparing myself to others and feeling“behind” I’m am fully trusting the man above to eventually lead me to the right person. And in the meantime I’ll continue working on myself, my blog and my and relationships with my family and friends.